Are you a Patty Hearst?

I'm using my Blog as my outlet to speak, please let this be my heartfelt apology From me to all women for every guy that hurt you, for the times I may have hurt you, for the times I got so pissed off at you because I felt you were so weak, for the times you wished someone was there to just listen but no one was there so you held it in, I want to speak to every woman out there that has been hurt of all races, sizes, shapes, and backgrounds. I'm Sorry.

Now that I've got that out of the way let me say this.

When I look at the women in my family what do I see? I would love to say that I saw so much strength, but I don't see it as much as I'd like to. I have a huge problem connecting with my family on either side, I've always been very independent in that way but it's also kind of like a curse. It was like I was preparing myself to not get too attached because I knew that I was going to bust out of Oklahoma City as soon as I possibly could, but it's also because I see the same trend, the same cycle repeating itself in all of the women in my family and the men they choose, and the fact that I felt they were not so strong pissed me off. They get fixated on "one particular guy" (that is ultimately bad for them) and cannot let them go, ending in a long tormented battle with themselves I see pain and broken hearts. No man should have that much control over you I'm sorry, pick your self up by your boot straps and get over it. No matter how many kids you have with them, no matter what you all went through, no matter how much time was invested, live and let live. I'm not speaking on one individual woman in my family, because this goes out to many I see the same exact thing in many of the women in my family. Actually I see this in a lot of women period, but since it's in my family it hits home so I'm speaking from my own personal experience. I just wish GOD could grant you guys whatever strength you need to move on and become the prosperous, beautiful, goddesses of life that I know you can be, but before you can become that you need to cleanse, cleanse your soul, mind, body, and spirit of the pain.

I feel like these women in my family and of the world with this plight are dealing with sort of their own version of Stockholm Syndrome.
The definition of Stockholm Syndrome is An extraordinary phenomenon in which a hostage begins to identify with and grow sympathetic to their captor, ala Patty Hearst The granddaughter of publishing magnate William Randolph Hearst and great-granddaughter of self-made millionaire George Hearst, she gained notoriety in 1974 when, following her kidnapping by the Symbionese Liberation Army (SLA), she ultimately joined her captors in furthering their cause.(Provided by Wikipedia)

I feel that somehow they sympathize with that "one particular guy" because they've both hurt each other and feel that they've been so broken the only person that can really love them is that "one particular guy." I could be way off base here so if you do feel that way let me know.

But I will end on this note : If "ONE PARTICULAR GUY" was to get engaged or married right now and you felt some kind of way about it, like why wasn't I "the one." Or if "ONE PARTICULAR GUY" your still seeing but you can't let anyone know because you know everyone is going to be angry about the hurt and pain he's caused you. Or if "ONE PARTICULAR GUY" can control your mood by not calling, not showing up, or not paying attention to you. Your the women I'm talking to a man shouldn't make you feel like you don't measure up, a man shouldn't make you feel ashamed of your love, and a man's absence shouldn't be the control switch on your emotions. If this is the case maybe you're are not dealing with a MAN at all, and the fact that he's not a MAN maybe the reason you haven't grown up to be a WOMAN.